This week, rather than speculate on the magnitude and direction of the stock market’s next inscrutable lurch, let’s ponder a troubling opinion piece on marriage that appeared in the Asbury Park Press. The author, one Anthony D’Ambrosio, is a 29-year-old millennial whose despairing ruminations bore the headline Five Reasons We Can’t Handle Marriage Anymore. He would know. D’Ambrosio, who writes a regular column on relationships for the newspaper, was a married man himself until recently — to a woman he met in 2004 and whom he wed in 2012. So much for the supposed benefits of a long courtship. Here’s D’Ambrosio’s short list of reasons why millennials are unable forge lasting unions:
• Sex becomes almost non-existent.
• Finances cripple us.
• We’re more connected than ever – but also disconnected.
• Our desire for attention outweighs our desire to be loved.
• Social media just invited a few thousand people into bed with you.
Clearly, this is a guy who still has a lot of soul-searching to do — and maturing. One could also argue that he has missed an important clue by failing to consider why marriages used to work so much better. Men and woman shared a common sense of purpose and an unlimited vista of opportunities when the U.S. emerged from the Second World War. Today, it is just the opposite: Career options for young people are limited, if not to say bleak; and, men and women were not at war back then, nor were they burdened by a sexual revolution that has cast gender roles perhaps irretrievably into doubt.
And there are a hundred other good reasons. What say you, readers?
It is simple, really, but hard to see, as we are not taught to think, we are taught to think along existing lines of thought.
Marriage places huge burden on a man. There needs to be a balancing benefit for marriage to work. It used to work before, centuries before. But since about a hundred years ago, the world has changed to the point that it is no longer a smart choice for a man to get married. A woman receives unfairly bigger benefit now.
So, what we see and will continue to see, is that where intelligent man is concerned, there will not be any marriage even to begin with. As you examine men with progressively lower and lower intelligence, you will see that they feel this change but not consciously, so they will actually attempt to enter the marriages, but will fail to stay in them. On a lower end, the men will enter the marriage to unknowingly completely waste his life consumed by woman.
Do not however make a mistake of painting with too wide of a brush. In some countries, the things related to this had not changed a lot yet, and so the marriage is still somewhat fair proposition. So, the smart man will enter into marriage and stay in it without being abused.
All this means that simpler crowds will multiply as will “backward” cultures. Modern and developed cultures will die out, which will be the nature’s punishment for their transgressions, i.e. their audacity to re-balance man-woman unions with the power of state violence. Deservingly so.